“Mother, May I?” “No, not if it gets me arrested!”

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I’m sure most of you by now have heard about the child abuse case in Baton Rouge.  Apparently, Schaquana Evita Spears, a mother of six chose to whip her preteen sons for breaking into a neighbor’s home and stealing from her, alongside some other friends of theirs.  Unfortunately, Ms. Spears left marks on the boys and for that she was arrested for two counts of child cruelty and all six of her children have been taken away from her.  Luckily, her bail was lowered from $2,500 to $1,000, she’s gotten a generous offer to have her case represented pro- bono and a local bonds-woman paid for this woman to get out of jail. Click Here for Original Article

Now, I have a couple of bones to pick about this topic, are you ready?

  1. You have all of these “specialists” with their numbers and scientific study showing the dangers and setbacks of using physical reprimand for disciplining children. According to researchers at the University of Texas and the University of Michigan, their “analysis concludes that children who are spanked are more likely to defy their parents…”.

Well I’m a single mother of two and a product of a single mother of three, and these researchers with their “likelihood analysis” just aren’t enough to encourage me to refrain from tappin… that… booty!

According to this article from the Advocate, as of April this year, analysis has been found over the last 50 years, analyzing 160,000 people and from that they find that physical discipline is damaging to a person mentally, emotionally, and socially.

First of all, 160, 000 is a really small number to get confident about here, I’m just saying!  Secondly, you have a lot of people who did not receive physical discipline who have grown up to be vicious serial killers. Thirdly, how about the grown women and men who tell their mothers and fathers, “thank you for kickin my butt as a kid because that, mom and dad, is what kept my nose in the books and me out of jail.” Where’s that research?  Seems to me that they’re so busy trying to prove one factor that they have chosen to completely ignore how physical discipline has actually helped.

So no, I’m sorry, I can’t get down with that, researchers.

  1. Don’t get me wrong! I am completely against child abuse or any form of Domestic Violence.  It breaks my heart and angers me to my core knowing that there are so many women and children and even men enduring so much abuse, physically, mentally, verbally, sexually, etc.  But that’s not what we’re talking about here.  This woman’s case is not identical to any of the predators I just mentioned.  Those six children live under a very loving roof. And like Ms. Spears said in the video, those babies are her world, but she doesn’t want them ending up like their father who is currently incarcerated.  Being a single black mother, one of the many daily battles we fight is keeping our black sons from walking down that path that society expects him to walk down.  On top of working 1 to 2+ jobs a day, maybe going back to school, getting siblings to and from school and events and so on, and now you’re telling me that I’m not allowed to discipline my children how I see fit?  Just like the neighbor who the kids robbed said in the video, I’d rather be wrong for whoopin your behind, than spending my grey days crying, praying and worrying about you being in jail, putting money on your books, finding you a good lawyer.  No thank you. As mothers we worry ourselves to death enough about the simplest things, “Lord I hope he has a good day at school today,” now we have to add, “Lord, if he can just make it to school without getting killed or arrested.”
  1. Now researchers, let me tell you what my research says happens when you choose not to whoop that behind when necessary. First of all, understand, I’m not saying you whoop them for every little thing they do. You’ve got to talk to them, lecture is discipline too. You’ve got to teach. Discipline is a form of education, a way of making certain things stick.  When a baby touches a hot stove after he’s been told not to, does he not learn that it is as hot as mama says it is?  Is that not also God’s natural reprimand for not listening? Is that not education all together?  Oh that’s right, just like Erykah Badu says, “most intellects do not believe in God but the fear is just the same.” And by that I mean, God said do not spare the rod and spoil the child, whoop that booty!  But some scientists/researchers/intellects don’t want to go the “God route” yet want to be the main ones screaming “oh my God” soon as one of those criminals comes and robs them, rapes them, kills them.  It’s “oh my God” in their heads, praying hard when they see a young black man dressed in jeans and a hoodie walking on the same side of the street as them, “oh my God don’t let him rob me.”  Oftentimes, it’s those same kids, they call themselves helping, who’s lives they’ve actually destroyed.  Taking them from a good home, putting them into foster care where they struggle so much to adapt because they just want to go home to their loving parent, that they get put into orphanages, foster homes, and children shelters.  They’re feeling unloved and unwanted and the streets scream independence from what they’re used to.  So they take that call from the streets. The rest is history.

Lastly my question is, who the hell snitched? They need their behinds whipped too!

 

 

 

 

Sited Source: http://theadvocate.com/news/police/16183302-123/its-been-hell-says-baton-rouge-mom-jailed-for-allegedly-beating-sons-after-catching-them-burglarizin  /BY MAYA LAU AND DAVID MITCHELL|